Imagine yourself in the fall. Imagine that you had stayed together over the summer; now, imagine that you hadn’t. What does it look like? Feel like? (Photo by Flickr user Jessie Jacobson.)
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Pillow Talk: So. You’ve met someone before summer break. Now what?

The Big Questions: Should we stay together? Will we stay together? And if we do, how do we keep this relationship alive? Especially when everything is so fresh and new and vulnerable?

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Take Back The Night provides a unique opportunity to address misconceptions about sexual violence, for survivors’ voices to be heard and for community members to support them. (Emerald Archives)
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Join the cause, participate in these Sexual Violence Prevention Week events

This week is Sexual Violence Prevention Week and the university encourages everyone to participate by raising awareness, support for the survivors and preventing sexual violence by participating in the week’s events.

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On Wednesday, March 4th,  Nancy Tuana, Professor of Philosophy at Pennsylvania State University, gave a lecture at the UO called “Coming to Understand: Orgasm and the Epistemology of Ignorance.” (Cole Elsasser/Emerald)
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“Coming to understand:” How ignorance skews our ideas of the female orgasm

On Wednesday, Nancy Tuana held a lecture to talk about understanding the orgasm. The most focus on the female orgasm and why we don’t know what we should know and why.

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"Stroke it for me": Seven songs about female sexual pleasure

I’ll admit: I really like to shake my ass. But, sometimes, the music I like to dance to (club hits, mostly) compromise my feminist sensibilities: I back my ass up to “Gas Pedal” and drop it like it’s hot while rappers talk about the “white… spilling down your throat” and “the way she shakin’ make you …

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You're Breakin' My Heart: The Anti Valentine's Day Playlist

Does buying a pre-packaged, mass-produced, red foil-covered heart-shaped box of stale chocolate really prove to your significant other that you’re the Heaven-sent soulmate with whom they are destined to spend an unquestioned eternity? Well how about the unforgettable gift of a monstrous five pound gummy bear? Should February’s halftime show …

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The Emerald's 2015 Valentine's Day playlist

This year, Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday. If you don’t want to look like an unloving dingus, you’ve already reserved a table at the finest dining establishment and pre-ordered bouquets of the nicest flowers. A few of us at the Emerald have submitted our favorite songs about love, with everything between Joni …

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Making sex 'As You Like It': Eugene's newest eco-friendly sex shop

By Hannah Steinkopf-Frank Kim Marks loves to talk about sex. That’s why she decided to open As You Like It — The Pleasure Shop, Eugene’s first eco-friendly sex toy shop. As You Like It is not a sleazy, back alley sex toy shop. The store sells products that fit a wide …

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Pillow Talk: My best friends spend more time with their boyfriends than with me. What should I do?

Dear Katherine, I hardly ever get to see or talk to some of my best friends since they started becoming more interested in their boyfriends. This keeps happening again and again. Should I be jealous? Is this petty? At what point do I take it personally? Sincerely, Left Behind Dear …

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Pillow Talk: I have a right to go topless, too: Why we should "free the nipple"

Just this September, I went topless  — in public — for the first time. Laying on a towel by the river in Eugene, I had untied my bikini top. I felt free. Confident. Empowered. Luckily, I live in Oregon — where it’s legal for a woman to be topless in public. If …

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Pillow Talk: How ineffective is the pullout method, really?

The first time I sought birth control, I was in high school and I was nervous. It wasn’t so much that I was embarrassed to talk about sex. I’d been having sex for a few months with my long-term boyfriend. It was that I dreaded answering the question I knew …

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Life as an asexual in a hypersexual culture: "Invisibility is probably the hardest part"

Lillian Huebner forgets where they first heard the word. It might have been while reading a book. Or scrolling through Tumblr accounts. What the 20-year-old University of Oregon sophomore does remember is this: Huebner was 18, living at home in rural Missouri, when they read the word and felt something unlike anything they had …

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Think Eugene needs a gay bar? You might be in luck.

When John O’Malley first moved to Eugene from New York City, he was shocked. It wasn’t the city’s people, its politics or its dampness. It was its nightlife: Eugene didn’t have a gay bar. Then O’Malley thought: forget a gay bar. Eugene didn’t even have a place where LGBTQ-identifed people could …

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Pillow Talk: What do I get for her besides flowers?

Dear Katherine, What are some simple “just because” gestures I make besides giving her flowers? Sincerely, Lover’s Block Dear Lover’s Block, Few things compare to the gestures you’re talking about. The kind that make you realize: This person was thinking of me and I didn’t even know it. It won’t …

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Pillow Talk: The orgasm gap

One day each spring, you’ll find a diagram of a vagina in a large lecture hall on campus: PLC 180. The diagram is an intricate, detailed look at female anatomy with each part neatly labeled. But, what the professor leading the lecture wants to focus on most is the clitoris. …

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Not just ropes, whips and chains: A look into the world of kink and fetish in Eugene

Just looking at it, you wouldn’t suspect the house to be anything but normal. It’s large and white; it’s a home dedicated to “clean and sober living,” and it’s located in a rural area of Eugene. Yet there’s a room in the basement of the house where activities take place …

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Owens: Don’t let pornography show you how it’s done

Porn screwed me. As an 18-year-old virgin, I thought I was prepared for what having sex was going to be like. I had watched video after video of people doing it online, so I figured I knew everything about it. Now after actually having awkward, fun and emotional sexual encounters …

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Pillow Talk: When bigger doesn’t mean better

Dear Katherine, I just started seeing this guy and we recently had sex for the first time. The only problem is that he’s well-endowed, and it’s been pretty painful. What can we do about it? — Bigger Ain’t Always Better Dear Bigger, I’d like for every guy insecure about the …

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The UO is one of the most queer-friendly campuses in the country with an abundance of resources

It’s Sunday, June 28, 1969. The Stonewall Riots occurred after a popular New York gay bar was raided. The patrons of the bar — sick of homophobic oppression —  fought back that night against the New York City police. Across the country a group of University of Oregon students was making a …

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UO students find ways to communicate with a secret crush through @UOCrush

Let’s be frank. These days if you want to hook up, there are numerous apps available to help you find a conquest. Click, click then bang. Pun intended. As of late, communication with romantic interests is done almost always through technology. But what if the person you have been secretly …

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Why few women major in STEM fields, and what the UO is doing to change that

Prejudice comes in many forms. Sometimes, it shows itself through personal conflicts — through bullying, taunting or hate crimes. Other times, it comes in the form of legal matters — through withholding the right to vote or the right to marry. Often, though, prejudice comes in shapes a bit more …

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UO Men’s Center helps answer the question: What is masculinity?

When Maj Hutchinson tells people she is the director of the University of Oregon Men’s Center, she is commonly met with two reactions: first, surprise (because she is a woman) and second, confusion (that a Men’s Center exists). “Why do we need a Men’s Center,” some women ask, “when the whole world …

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Sex: Nadia Cho's library sex scandal at UC Berkeley

While students at UC Berkeley were busy making travel plans for Thanksgiving, Nadia Cho had another prerogative. She wanted to prove that having sex on campus was possible. Not just anywhere, but in UC Berkeley’s library. She had sex in between the stacks of her library — right next to the books on …

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Relationships: Overcoming the post-Christmas blues

Yesterday, while listening to music on my iPod, Josh Groban’s version of “Little Drummer Boy” came on. And, instead of getting filled with the fuzzy, warm holiday spirit like I normally do when I hear his sexy baritone, my heart dropped. The date was Dec. 26, 2012, and I felt …

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Brightening people's days using 'UOregon Compliments' Facebook page

Believe in the power of compliments? Wish to spread kindness via social media? Well, then post an anonymous compliment on the “UOregon Compliments” Facebook page. “UOregon Compliments” is a page dedicated to posting compliments anonymously. All one has to do is message the page administrator with a compliment for a …

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Sex: Is being attracted to someone while in a relationship normal?

Dear Katherine, I have been dating this guy for a few months and he’s great. It’s going really well, and I think I’m falling in love. Despite this budding romance, I still feel attracted to other guys. It could be a guy I meet in class or at a party. …

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Sex: Sex and relationships in the media this week

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists said that the birth control pill should be sold over-the-counter and KVAL News reports that many women in Eugene agree. A Eugene women’s health care practitioner, Anne Marie Moore, said that since the pill is relatively safe, even safer than some other over-the-counter …

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Sex: How to mend a broken heart

Dear Katherine, About a week ago, my girlfriend ended our two-and-a-half-year relationship. It was completely out of the blue — I didn’t see it coming at all. She said that she wasn’t sure she wanted to be with me anymore. Just like that. I am crushed. I love her. She …

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Sex: Sex and relationships in the media this week

A new study shows that men in monogamous relationships who possess increased levels of the hormone oxytocin (also known as the “love hormone”), keep their distance from attractive women and are more likely to be faithful to their partners. Writer Arden Leigh is a master of seduction. After years of …

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Relationships: Advice — falling in love with a roommate

Dear Katherine, A few months ago, I moved in with a group of strangers I met on Craigslist. I like living with them, but there’s one problem: I’m in love with one of my roommates. Despite my better judgement, I drunkenly hooked up with him shortly after I moved in. …

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Sex: Sex and relationships news this week

Here are some highlights of what happened in the sex and relationships world this week: What is the future of same-sex marriage? Check out this interview on NPR in which both sides — pro same-sex marriage and against — debate. A man who accused Elmo puppeteer of having sex with …

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